fear of loss

THERE ARE TIMES IN OUR LIVES WHEN WE SEEM TO BE COMPLETELY AT PEACE WITH OUR EXTERNAL WORLD; WHEN OUR EXPECTATIONS FROM OUR UNIVERSE ARE FULFILLED IN ACCORDANCE WITH HOW THE REST OF THE WORLD PERCEIVES HAPPINESS TO BE. A GOOD JOB, COMFORTABLE LIFE, A SPOUSE AND CHILDREN AND NUMEROUS FRIENDS TO PARTY WITH. WE IGNORE THE VERY BASICS OF OUR EXISTENCE OUR INNER SELF, OUR SOURCE OF BLISS AND WITH TIME WE FIND OURSELVES MORE AND MORE DEPLETED. WHY THEN WHEN ALL THE PRE-REQUISITES OF HAPPINESS ARE FULFILLED WE STILL FEEL LOST, THEN WHAT IS LEFT UNDONE?
WE CHOOSE TO SEEK THE APPROVAL OF THE WORLD OUTSIDE US TO DEFINE OUR PARAMETERS OF HAPPINESS AND IGNORE OUR OWN SELF, BECAUSE IT TAKES COURAGE TO LISTEN TO OUR HEART, TO FULFILL OUR PURPOSE IN LIVE ...BUT THE MASTER I.E. OUR TRUE SELF ASSERTS ITS PRESENCE AND WE FEEL DISSATISFIED WITH OUR HIGH PAYING JOBS AND EVEN HIGHER PACKAGE OF STRESS THAT COMES WITH IT .WHICH INCLUDES 16 TO 18 HOURS A DAY OF SLAVERY ,JUST TO LIVE A LIFE THAT OTHERS SEE AS SUCCESSFUL. IT TAKES EVEN MORE COURAGE TO LIVE IN A LOPSIDED UNFULFILLING AND MORE OFTEN THAN NOT ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS WHERE ONE PARTNER CHOOSES TO TAKE ENDLESSLY WHILE THE OTHER ONE BEARS THE BURDEN OF PARENTING HIM/HER.
WHY SHOULD THIS HAPPEN TO US. WHY DO WE NOT SEEM TO HAVE ENOUGH COURAGE TO SEEK A LIFE WHERE THE EXTERNAL REWARDS MAY NOT BE VERY VISIBLE OR APPLAUDED BY THE WORLD. WHY DO WE CONTINUE SUCH DISTRESSFUL SLAVERY?
BECAUSE OF FEAR. WE FEAR NOT BEING AT PAR WITH THE REST , WE FEAR BEING AN OUTCAST . AND THE BIGGEST FEAR IS THE FEAR OF BEING LEFT ALONE?
ARE WE SO HORRIBLE THAT EVEN WE OURSELVES ARE SCARED OF OUR OWN COMPANY. WHAT IS MISSING HERE? IF WE KNEW THAT THERE IS ENORMOUS COMFORT, LOVE AND ALL THE PEACE AND JOY THAT WE SEEK IS WITHIN US WOULD WE STILL CONTINUE TO DO THAT?
WOULD BE STILL RUN FROM OURSELVES, WOULD BE STILL SEEK ANOISY PUB OR BAR SO THAT WE DONT REMEMBER THAT WE ARE LONELY?
AND MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL ..IS THAT FAIR.
LETS EXAMINE IT FROM THE BEGINNING WHY DO WE NEED PEOPLE. WE NEED THEM BECAUSE WE ARE BROUGHT UP AS SOCIAL BEINGS .IF, FROM OUR VERY CHILDHOOD, WE LIVED A SECLUDED LIFE..IF WE LIVED IN A CAVE ALONE OR IN A FOREST, BEING WITH OURSELVES WAS A WAY OF LIFE........ WOULD BE STILL FEEL THE SAME ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS, SPOUSES FAMILY ..FRIENDS?
I DONT THINK SO, IF WE KNEW HOW TO BE COMFORTABLE WITH OURSELVES, HOW TO FIND PEACE WITHIN WE WILL NOT LOOK OUTSIDE OURSELVES FOR COMFORT FOR NURTURANCE.BECAUSE WE HAVE IN US ,ALL THAT WE NEED, JUST THAT WE HAVENT LEARNED HOW TO TAP THAT ENDLESS SOURCE OF ENERGY.
IF WE ARE AT PEACE WITH OURSELVES NOT ONLY WE WILL BE HAPPIER IN OUR RELATIONSHIP BUT WE WOULD MAKE THEM BETTER FOR OTHERS TOO. BECAUSE THEN WE ARE NOT DEPENDENTS AND WHEN WE ARE NOT DEPENDANT ON OTHERS........ WE ARE FREE. WE ARE FREE TO CHOOSE , WE ARE FREE OF ALL FEARS AND WE SEEK BETTER AND MORE FULFILLING AND HARMONIOUS LIVES FOR OURSELVES BECAUSE THEN WE GET OVER OUR FEAR OF LOSS. THEN WE DONT CLING TO ABUSIVE PATTERNS BECAUSE WE REALIZE ITS NOT WORTH SO MUCH.WE NATURALLY LOOK BEYOND IT WITH A NEWFOUND COURAGE THAT THERE IS A POWER BEYOND ALL HUMAN LIMITATIONS THAT WILL SEE US THROUGH ...THE POWER OF SELF ..WE CHOOSE TO CREATE OUR OWN REALITY A NEW LIFE SOLELY ON THE TRUST THAT WE PLACE ON SOMETHING BEYOND OUR MINDS AND THAT SENSE OF SELF IS WHAT I CALL GOD!
WE ARE OUR OWN CREATORS, NURTURERS, LOVERS AND WE CREATE FOR OURSELVES WHAT WE CHOOSE FOR OURSELVES ..IF CHOOSE LOVE WE GET LOVE ,IF WE CHOOSE MISERY WE GET MISERY.
THEN THE NEXT QUESTION IS HOW DO WE DO THAT ..THIS IS MORE SIMPLE THAN YOU THINK ..ITS A STEP BY STEP TECHNIQUE.
1. CLOSE YOUR EYES AND ASK YOURSELF WHAT 'U' TRULY WANT FOR YOURSELF TOMORROW OR AN HOUR FROM NOW..IT CAN BE ANYTHING.
2. ONCE YOU DECIDE ON WHAT YOU WANT ASK AND RECONFIRM 'IS THAT WHAT I WANT'?
3. ONCE CONFIRMED THINK ABOUT IT AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN...CLEARLY AND CLEARLY AND MORE CLEARLY
4. IT SHOULD GET SO CLEAR THAT U CAN NOW VISUALIZE IT
5. AND NOW IT IS SO REAL THAT YOU CAN EVEN EXPERIENCE IT , YOU CAN FEEL ALL THE EMOTIONS WHETHER LOVE ,ANGER, SECURITY, CONFIDENCE ..'U FEEL IT AS GOOD AS YOU CAN ALMOST EXPERIENCE IT'.
6. NOW DO YOU FEEL HAPPY ABOUT IT .... THEN LEAVE THAT THOUGHT IN THE UNIVERSE
7.THERE ...YOUR THOUGHT MATERIALIZES BEFORE YOU CAN EVEN IMAGINE.
NOW THERE ARE A FEW THINGS THAT YOU NEED TO THINK ABOUT AND THESE RULES OF UNIVERSE ARE NEVER TO BE IGNORED ....AS NEWTON LAID IT OUT LOUD AND CLEAR FOR ALL OF US..
ENERGY CAN NEITHER BE CREATED NOR BE DESTROYED..OUR THOUGHTS ARE VERY SUBTLE YET MOST POTENT FORM OF ENERGY ..AND LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE SO A NEGATIVE THOUGHT WOULD ATTRACT MORE NEGATIVITY AND A POSITIVE THOUGHT WOULD DO THE SAME MANIFOLD..SO THINK ABOUT GOOD THINGS FOR YOURSELF AND MORE IMPORTANTLY FOR OTHERS.. U MIGHT BE ANGRY BUT THE ANGER MAY NOT REMAIN THERE IN YOUR HEART .......SO THINK MANY TIMES OVER BEFORE HARBORING HARMFUL THOUGHTS FOR ANYONE.
SECONDLY ONCE YOU HAVE CREATED SOMETHING AND LEFT IT FOR THE UNIVERSE TO FULFILL ...STICK TO IT ..DON'T KEEP CHANGING YOUR MIND OR YOU WILL KEEP CONFUSING THE ENTIRE UNIVERSE
LASTLY, LET ALL THOUGHTS BE INSPIRED BY LOVE FOR YOURSELF AND FOR OTHERS THERE IS NO EMOTION MORE POWERFUL THAN LOVE
SO GO AHEAD AND CREATE A BRAND NEW REALITY FOR YOURSELF AND NO ONE CAN STOP YOU FROM DOING SO,
NOT EVEN GOD. BECAUSE HE HAS GIVEN US THIS POWER IN THE FIRST PLACE..A FREE WILL TO CHOOSE AND CREATE OUR OWN LIFE AND LEARNING AND HE HAS NO INTENTION TO TAKE IT AWAY FROM YOU WHETHER U CREATE GOOD OR BAD ..LIKE HE NEVER DID IN THE PAST MANY MANY LIVES THAT U LIVED
WHERE U CREATED YOUR OWN REALITY , LIVED IT , EXPERIENCED IT AND MOVED ON ..
DO THE SAME NOW BUT THIS TIME USE IT WISELY AND LOVINGLY ..LIVE MORE IN AWARENESS AND GIVE NOT A SECOND TO ANY STRAY, USE LESS OR A DESTRUCTIVE THOUGHT ANYMORE ...NOT EVEN A SECOND SHOULD BE LIVED IN THAT UNAWARE SLEEPY STAGE WHEN YOUR MIND THOUGHT ALL DAY LONG AND CREATED NOTHING GOOD OR USEFUL FOR YOU.
CHANGE IT THIS TIME..CHOOSE WISELY AND LIVE IN TOTAL AND COMPLETE AWARENESS OF YOUR THOUGHTS AND CHOICES THAT YOU ARE CREATING EVERY MOMENT.
AND THAT MY FRIEND IS MEDITATION ,,IF YOU PERFECT THIS ART ..NOT JUST YOU, ALL HUMANS HAVE THE INTELLIGENCE TO CHOOSE NOTHING BUT THE HIGHEST ..THEY WILL CHOOSE THE BEST
AND THAT'S THE FASTEST AND THE SUREST WAY TO REACH GOD!